Renee Roissier Miller

Wow, I can’t believe it’s been over two months since I’ve last written on this website. I get pretty busy with everyday life and time seems to get away from me. The family and I made it through all the holidays and while the sadness and shock of missing Renee is still very much a [...]

The 52nd time this has been known as “Renee’s Birthday” and the second one she is not here to celebrate. A lot has happened in the year since the first time I had to mark this day without her. I mentioned last year, the custom in this country of remembering the life of great people [...]

So this is how the case ends? Not with a bang or even a whimper just another river of tears by the victim’s grieving family and friends as one filthy murderer gets sent to prison. Justice? Not hardly. An insolent, unrepentant, subhuman piece of shit gets to avoid trial and a minimum sentence of [...]

[Note: the link to the NY Times site is now fixed. Give it a try.]
I came across an article about dealing with someone else’s crises in a recent edition of the NY times [to read the full essay click here. The author’s observations echo much of my experience and I suspect the majority of [...]

How are you doing? It’s been over a year now, are things any easier?
I am one person who won’t have to be reminded how long it’s been.  406 days as I type this. There is never going to be an easy answer to the question “how are you doing?”  No real way for those [...]

I wrote earlier in the month on the eve of the first anniversary nobody wants to remember but one that no one in my circle of family and friends will ever forget. First I wrote about it then I lived it. Here’s how it went. I had talked to the older children about getting together [...]

Well, it’s now been a year since my world fell apart.  365 days to get used to the fact that Renee is gone and she’s never coming back. The times when I am either awakened or jarred out of a solitary daze by some guttural, almost inhuman sounds, and then realizing the source of those [...]

It’s been almost a year since Renee was killed, how are you and the kids doing ?

This is by far the easiest question to ask, it is also the one I hear the most, and it is the hardest to answer honestly.  Most times I simply say, ” I’m doing OK ” particularly if the [...]

This is a much sadder than usual day for me.  Today is my 25th wedding anniversary and my first without my beautiful wife.  My work often took me away from Renee on our anniversary and so we would mark the occasion a week before or after the actual date depending on my schedule.  I have [...]

How was Thanksgiving at Mapleshade?
Our first Thanksgiving without Renee was hard. Renee LOVED holidays. She was a bundle of energy, singing and laughing while making sure the rest of us had a great day. Cooking and decorating the house were all things she excelled at. Her absence was very much felt by all.  Still, we [...]